Love is the answer to Domestic Violence

Posted on June 1, 2025 by Neil Stott

Having worked for 8 years or more promoting the orthodoxy of gender based violence the conclusion matches the recent article in the Australian. At the core of DV is toxic relationships centred on power and control which is not necessarily based on gender. We would get more benefit from a massive increase in relationship training based on core principles of love, kindness, forgiveness and building one another up. The principles of the Love Chapter in 1 Corinthians 13 is the foundation that achieves that

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Call to men

Posted on March 18, 2025 by Neil Stott

Powerful message to men
https://youtube.com/shorts/fSKiyWbSVk8?si=wDWoTRVSlqyRuo-9

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Men, are you prepared to make a stand?

Posted on April 30, 2024 by Neil Stott

A man who says “I’m not going to die on that hill” but never fights on any hill is not a man you can trust to fight for anything that really matters.

Burke Parsons

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Another look at sexual abuse

Posted on July 10, 2023 by Neil Stott

A few years my time as a White Ribbon Ambassador it is very sad and concerning that sexual abuse continues. Rather than point to a single group, the issue of sexual abuse and violence toward women is a widespread cultural issue that will not be resolved by just “educating” men to be be better men. Or women marching and shouting at men and berating men for “toxic masculinity”.

Instead the solutions lay in the bedrock of our society, the family unit and the way that men and women raise their children.

Unfortunately the secularization of modern society is at the root cause of these and other social problems as modern society has abandoned the Christian values which were once the guiding principles by which we live. For those who have no exposure to Christian values think on these points:

  • We are God’s creation
  • God sets the standards for life
  • We are Individually accountable to God
  • Jesus Christ died and was resurrected as an atonement for our sins and failures

God provides the personal values that we should reach for:

  • Love
  • Forgiveness
  • Kindness
  • Respect
  • Sexual relations within a marriage (consider what “fornication” means as a contrast)
  • Hard work
  • Self discipline

Then with that the institutions that bring guidance and foundation to our society:

  • Family
  • Marriage
  • Church

And so the list goes on …

But it is not merely following a set of rules, Christianity is a transformational faith. Confess your sins and accept Jesus as Lord. Make every thought captive to Christ. And live the precepts of the love chapter 1 Corinthians 13.

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Be Kind in 2022

Posted on February 2, 2022 by Neil Stott

The great disease of the modern era is not Trans vs Women debate or Gender Identity crises.

The disease that has beset us all is the inability to dialog at all. To debate and argue and agree or disagree. This is nature of a true civil society. Where words offend, say so, argue succinctly why, seek to enlighten others about how they offend.

And should the offender apologise, accept it with dignity not abuse. But if they don’t rise to a higher place and use the words of another sacrificial lamb “forgive them for they know not what they do”.

But to cancel the offender, to have them sacked from positions, to have their lectures, books, blogs, websites blocked because they offend one group but are cheered by another group is not the path of democracy but a repetition of the evils of the past. Cite Marxism, Cite Nazism, Cite the CCP, Cite Pol Pot.

And finally, whatever position you take on these challenging questions of philosophy, find a new cause in 2022

… be a better person and “Be Kind to one another”. Ephesians 4:32

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