The challenge of Positive Maculinity

The issue of Toxic Masculinity is again in the papers. Unfortunately, the secular world doesn’t have the answers.

This challenge is not about de-masculinity men. It is about having a meaningful voice and set of consistent values that celebrate manhood without the male blame game that has been tried and failed for the last 10+ years.

From a Christian Father and Grandfather’s perspective the modern Christ following Church has a number of basic tenets that speaks into this problem:

  1. God awareness – God is always there, always watching. Much of the online, negative & porn is done in secret. Knowing that nothing escapes the attention of God & he will bring light into dark places is a sobering check on male behaviour.
  2. Love – not the mushy brand or lust, but one which is based on Christ’s example. Self Sacrificial Love. Putting others first.
  3. Kindness – a forgotten virtue that goes with points 1 & 2. Lots of effort has been made to be more kind. But in Social Media land it is all too easy to let rip against those you disagree with it.
  4. Forgiveness – the central plank of Christian faith. As we surrender our lives to Christ, God forgives us for our many, many sins and failures. As God forgives us, we should forgive others who have wronged us.
  5. Empowerment of others – in a self centred world we have all thousands upon thousands of self help books, the majority are focussed on self. As we talk about relationships, men & women should be adopting the self sacrificing practice of doing all that they can to build up, strengthen & encourage their loved ones.
  6. Good works – We become followers of Christ not to just build the church but to do good, seeking ways to help others who are less fortunate. It is no surprise that those who volunteer live happier and more fulfilled lives because they are helping others.
  7. Confess your sins – This is about asking for help, not just to God but when you know you are not acting right, thinking right, go to people you trust. Tell them your worries & concerns and ask for help.
  8. Confront – Call out bad behaviour when you see it. The time for silence is over.
  9. Prayer – in all things we should pray and when we fall short ask for His forgiveness.
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Why I support Traditional Marriage

For 11 Sociological reasons.

For 6 Biblical reasons.

  1. We are created by God as man and woman.
  2. God made marriage between a man and woman as the core structure of society.
  3. Jesus affirmed marriage as between a man a woman.
  4. God created sex to be enjoyed between a man and a woman within marriage
  5. All other sexual acts outside of this marriage covenant “fall short” of God’s standards and are call “sin”
  6. God’s love is shown to those who sin “we all fall short” through the atoning sacrifice of Jesus Christ. “All who call upon the Lord will be saved.”

For 5 Cultural and Traditional reasons

  1. Marriage (between a man and woman) has been the bedrock upon which society is built
  2. Changing the definition of marriage affects the status of every married couple.
  3. Changing the definition of marriage invalidates our history and culture including that of our parents, grand parents, great grand parents who were married as man and woman.
  4. A range of common words associated with marriage between a man and a woman will be forever changed (husband, wife).

 

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Love is the answer to Domestic Violence

Having worked for 8 years or more promoting the orthodoxy of gender based violence the conclusion matches the recent article in the Australian. At the core of DV is toxic relationships centred on power and control which is not necessarily based on gender. We would get more benefit from a massive increase in relationship training based on core principles of love, kindness, forgiveness and building one another up. The principles of the Love Chapter in 1 Corinthians 13 is the foundation that achieves that

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Call to men

Powerful message to men
https://youtube.com/shorts/fSKiyWbSVk8?si=wDWoTRVSlqyRuo-9

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Men, are you prepared to make a stand?

A man who says “I’m not going to die on that hill” but never fights on any hill is not a man you can trust to fight for anything that really matters.

Burke Parsons

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